Praying Together in Marriage: How to Rebuild Spiritual Intimacy and Connection

Marriage Inc.
Apr 3
3 min read

You still pray before meals. You pray when emergencies happen. You pray for each other.

But when was the last time you held hands, bowed your heads together, and prayed aloud with your spouse — not for a crisis, not out of obligation, but simply to stay connected?

It’s easy to overlook. Easy to postpone. Easy to excuse.

But underneath that silence is something dangerous:

Marriages rarely collapse overnight. They drift — quietly, invisibly — moment by missed moment, prayer by missed prayer.

When couples stop praying together in marriage, they often start growing apart. The distance that forms in the spirit eventually finds its way into the heart, the mind, and the body too.

The Silent Drift No One Talks About

You love God. You love your spouse. And yet, the connection feels thinner. Less sacred. Less safe. You handle the logistics but not the heart. You survive the days but forget to center your souls. You function, but you stop flourishing.

We see this pattern over and over again:

Couples who feel like roommates instead of partners
Marriages that manage tasks but miss tenderness
Faith-filled individuals who feel spiritually lonely inside their own relationship

Spiritual intimacy isn’t a luxury for marriage — it’s a lifeline.

When spiritual intimacy in marriage is missing, everything else eventually weakens too.

Why Praying Together in Marriage Changes Everything

It Realigns Your Hearts Around What Matters Most Prayer pulls your eyes off the chaos and reminds you: We are a team under God's covering.

It Softens Conflict and Strengthens Forgiveness It’s difficult to stay hardened when you’re kneeling beside the one you promised to cherish.

It Deepens Emotional and Physical Intimacy Spiritual vulnerability opens the door to emotional safety — and emotional safety revives passion.

It Protects Against Future Drifting When praying together becomes a rhythm, it patches the small cracks before they widen into chasms.

The couple that prays together doesn’t just stay together. They stay soft. They stay safe. They stay strong.

Why Spiritual Intimacy in Marriage Gets Lost

1. We've Built Faith Privately, Not Collectively We’re taught to have a personal relationship with God.Marriage invites us to evolve that faith into shared devotion.

2. Busyness Becomes the Enemy of Sacred Space Jobs, parenting, phones, distractions — the urgent drowns out the essential.

3. Vulnerability Feels Risky Praying aloud means revealing dreams you’ve barely spoken and wounds you haven't healed.It demands honesty without armor.

But that is where real intimacy grows.

How to Start Praying Together in Marriage

(Even If It Feels Awkward)

Start Simple One minute. One prayer. One open heart.

"God, thank You for today. Help us love each other well."

Hold Hands When You Pray Physical connection enhances spiritual connection.

Use Easy Prompts to Guide You

What are we grateful for today?
What burdens are we carrying?
What do we need God’s help with this week?

Create a Weekly Prayer Rhythm Pick one night a week. Protect it. Honor it.

Pray Over Each Other Intentionally Speak specific blessings over your spouse’s dreams, fears, and efforts.

A True Story: The Power of One Prayer

One couple we coached lived years in emotional distance. They served. They smiled. They showed up. But they had stopped praying together. They lost their spiritual intamacy in marriage.

One night, weary and longing for more, they simply held hands and prayed:

"God, we’re tired of feeling alone in the same house. Help us find our way back."

No fireworks. No perfect words. Just presence. Healing began — not because the prayer was powerful, but because their hearts turned toward God and each other at the same time.

That’s spiritual intimacy. That’s how you rebuild sacred ground.